FAQ On Counselling
What is Counselling?
Counselling is the process of supporting a client with their a client with their personal or professional issues and helping them either resolve or cope with them l or professional issues and helping them either resolve or cope with them
When should you reach out for Counselling?
If you need help communicating to people
If you are struggling in your professional or personal relationships
If you wish to achieve work-life balance
If you feel like something is off and feel the need to talk to someone
If you have unresolved childhood trauma, fear, guilt, depression, anxiety
If stress is affecting you or keeping you awake at night (insomnia)
If you mood swings, face confidence issues, lack self-worth
If you wish to find your life purpose,
If you need career guidance or parental guidance
If you wish to manage anger, hurt, pain, resentment, abandonment issues
How can I seek Counselling?
Reach out to your counsellor, set an appointment and set aside a fixed time slot every week and stay committed to working with the counsellor to help you help yourself and get clarity to the above-mentioned and other issues that keep you from achieving your life purpose.
What is Wellness?
To be considered emotionally well, we need to understand the 8 dimensions of wellness as below -
Physical wellness – refers to how well you take care of your health. To maintain good health, you need to get adequate amount of sleep, eat healthy food and be physically active. Good sleep is anywhere between 7-8 hours daily. Eat simple and healthy home cooked food in moderation and at the time is important. For example, avoid long gaps between meals or eating too late in the day. Keep 2 hours gap min between eating and sleeping at night, as your body needs time to digest the food. Physical activity can include walking, running, yoga, swimming, sports or any form of exercise. Usually, when we are stressed, we tend to overeat or smoke or drink too much. If you are unfit, or you don’t take care of your body, you could develop chronic health problems.
Occupational wellness – is being happy with your career choice and being able to balance work and life. It also involves having a healthy rapport with colleagues and being able to manage work stress. For this you need to find work that is fulfilling and one that you are passionate about to be able to give your best at work. Finding work that suits your skills, interest level and values keeps you motivated to go to work each day.
Financial Wellness – is being content with your finances. Money can drive people to greed for more and more like an abyss. Know when to stop and how much is enough. Managing finances well requires adequate amount of planning for your future with the right experts if required. Investing wisely for your future and having insurance plans for your health might make you feel less stressed and worried about your future.
Emotional wellness – is being able to cope effectively with life and build meaningful relationships with others. People who are emotionally healthy are more confident and in control of their feelings. They are able to handle life’s challenges well. Find things to do that keep you happy such as pursuing a hobby (playing guitar, singing, reading, painting, cooking). This helps you relax a great deal too.
Spiritual Wellness – refers to your values and belief system. Developing your spiritual wellness will give you a meaning and purpose in life. Spiritual wellness includes meditation, charity, voluntary work, prayer and so on. Spiritual wellness also means being mindful (being in the present moment). SW will increase your self-confidence and make you equanimous. Equanimous means neutral to pain or pleasure. For eg you get a promotion. Be happy but theres no need to go overboard. Similarly’, if someone tries to correct you at work, take it as positive feedback…. See how you can improve instead of sulking and moping around office.
Intellectual wellness – there is no end to learning. Knowledge is a life-long process. Keep upgrading your skills, read books, do puzzles and increase your knowledge to improve your mental health. Reading books gives you a broader perspective to life as well. As you age, your mind also ages. If you keep yourself occupied doing constructive mental challenges, your mind will be fit and active too. Most importantly, knowledge and mental activities improve your concentration power, memory and make you more disciplined. Discipline is an important factor in achieving success in life.
Environmental wellness – refers to natural and social surroundings which can affect how you feel. For example, cultivate the habit of waking up early and folding your sheets, keeping your room organized and do your bit to conserve water, power and so on. A cluttered room will make you feel irritated.
Social wellness – is how well you get along with people and how connected you are to your friends and family. Family is your backbone and support that helps you get through work each day and through the challenges in your life. So invest some quality time with family and friends too. Build healthy relationships at work. Spend some time getting to know each other at work. Greet each other each day and ask each other how are you and so on. It makes others feel so touched on being treated this way. This makes you feel good too – when you do something good for others. Get involved in community service or join a club or gym to socialize. Treat others respectfully.
What is Counselling - busting a few myths
What is Counselling?
There is so little awareness about Counselling even today. From what I have heard in the recent past until now, I would like to take this opportunity to break myths and set some expectations about counseling.
A counselor is someone who talks to you or advices you.
False. A counselor is someone who listens to you and empowers you to make your own decisions. A counselor can be your friend when there is nobody else who understands you or what you are going through. A Counsellor is non-judgemental, can keep your information confidential, and can also be non-directional (not tell you what to do but help you get to that decision yourself).
If I go to a counselor, it means I am crazy or there is something wrong with me. I will not get a job and people will judge me.
False. This is probably due to the lack of awareness on the topic. Counseling is still kept a secret from each other at home or at work. You seek counseling for any of these reasons - you need help communicating, help with a certain relationship or marital issues, parental issues or guidance, help with career choice, help to try to find a work-life balance, help in identifying reasons for anxiety, fear, insomnia, depression, nightmares, help achieving goals, help in coping with stress, help with your perception of yourself (lack of self-esteem), abuse, domestic violence and much more. These are only a few reasons listed here as examples. There could be a multitude of other reasons why you may need counseling.
Please spread the awareness amongst your own friends and network that there is no shame in seeking counseling. We all have an innate nature to help each other. Some of us do it as a profession.
Surveys show how the demand for counseling is shooting up in the recent past and there is a severe dearth of counselors to meet this demand. Not enough people are able to come forward and reach out for counseling as well, due to shame of society, lack of awareness, or other reasons. We continue to suffer quietly and accept our fate but not seek help for fear of being judged.
Please remember, people who judge you are also people at the end of the day with the same issues, needs, disappointments, and so on. Do not let others judge you or control your life. Seek help when you can to empower yourself to lead your life in a way that makes sense to you. Know that it is ok to talk to someone. Someone cares and understands your pain. Reach out. Take that first step and enjoy a more meaningful life.
Meditation and Prayer go hand in hand. Prayer helps you put forward your wishes to God and Meditation lets you receive guidance from God as answers to your questions. Open yourself up to receive love and guidance from the Divine. Meditate daily for at least 5-10 mins to calm your mind. It may be difficult in the beginning but practice makes perfect and the effort is super rewarding and worth it. You may get messages while meditating or in your dreams. Be open to the process and let yourself breathe, heal and balance.
What is Spiritual Life Coaching?
Spiritual Life Coaching is a lot like Coaching in many ways since both involve identifying where you are at currently, what is not working for you, what needs to be adjusted, where you want to go and how to get there. Coaching helps you set realistic goals for yourself in any aspect of your life, whether it is work, personal life, health, emotions and so on.
Spiritual Coaching goes one step further, in that it takes on a more holistic approach. This is because it does not just address a clients issues/needs at a superficial level, but instead delves deeper by looking inward to tap into your intentions, thoughts, and beliefs to make a lasting change.
It works on healing a client's aspects such as mind, body and spirit. Hence it is considered Holistic - since it works on your physical, emotional, spiritual and mental levels.
Basics of Chakras -
Chakras are energy vortexes found in our physical bodies. They connect our physical body to our aura. We are all energy bodies and chakras are energy centers located at specific locations on our bodies. They connect our mind, body, and spirit.
Starting from the base of the spine, each chakra works on specific aspects and organs of our body. The Root Chakra is located at the base of the spine and is called the Muladhara. The Sacral Chakra is located 2 inches below our navel and is called Swadisthana. The Solar Plexus Chakra is located 2 inches above the navel and is called the Manipura. The Heart Chakra is located at the heart center and is called Anahata. The Throat Chakra is located at the throat and is called Vishudda. The Third Eye Chakra is located in the space between our eyebrows and is called the Ajna. The last is the Crown Chakra located at the crown of our head and is called the Sahasrara.
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More on Chakras
Chakras are the energy centers of our body. They keep us healthy and balanced. Our chakras can get affected by blocks that occur due to our current situations, thoughts or feelings, trauma, or past lives. We have an energetic body and a physical body. The energetic body also needs to be cleansed just as the physical body. Energy can get trapped in our aura, chakras, organs, timeline (karma), DNA, cellular levels (ancestors and trauma).
To Heal, we need to activate our spiritual senses, find the blocks, then remove them and refuel with healing love and energy.
Each chakra has a specific color, beej mantra, a name, a location, and is associated with a certain element such as earth, air, fire, water etc. It is important to find out which chakra is blocked or in some cases, multiple chakras could be blocked. When chakras are blocked, we experience changes in our mind, body, and spirit. You could experience pain in a certain part of your body or a physical ailment related to that particular chakra. On an emotional level, you could be experiencing anxiety, pain, stress, overthinking, insomnia, and so on. To get to the root cause of the ailments, it is important to find your blocks and heal them.
Healing with chakras can be done in multiple ways - with crystals, yoga, meditation, specific affirmations or essential oils. To find out where the issues lie, please book an appointment with me to help with the healing of your chakras. You can email me at email@example.com to find out more/block your slot. Stay Blessed!! Happy Healing!!